18Oct 2016

Are You Drifting? Dissatisfied? You Can Fix It!

October 18th, 2016|0 Comments

Everyone, from time to time, drifts away from his or her desired path. That is true for careers, marriages, relationships, finances, personal passions, hobbies, health, faith, etc. We all go astray. It is part of the chaos of life. But it can be corrected. It can also be prevented. You have to stop, take an inventory of your life, create a plan for the necessary changes, and then follow that plan toward a better future.   There are several fundamental starting points. You have to admit you spend more time planning your next vacation than you spend time planning the next 5 years of your life. You have to admit you waste time overwhelmed or distracted by the small events in your life, losing your focus on the bigger and more important components of your life. Lastly, you have to admit you settle, far too often, for something good as opposed to fighting for something great.   Now, how to combat those tendencies? How do you stop the current drift in your life? You have to pause, take a couple days off, reflect and re-evaluate, and then make an effort to create (and write down) a new Life Plan. For [...]

6Oct 2016

Here’s Your Best Advice to Yourself

October 6th, 2016|0 Comments

When I attended my daughters’ college graduations, I listened to the speeches and then retired promptly to my own computer to type my imaginary commencement address, highlighting what I would have recommended for their lives. After attending my own recent reunion (see blog at boomerhealthinstitute.com), I realized something. What people recommend for others is usually what they are secretly recommending for themselves.   So, let me ask you. What are you recommending for your children as they progress through life? Does it differ much different from what you are recommending for your own life? Take a look at my two imaginary college commencement speeches. Do you agree with the suggestions? Are they striking a familiar theme that you offer to your own children? Give me some feedback. I would love to see how we vary in our approaches to a happy, successful, rewarding life. I think you will discover that your advice to others is your best advice to yourself.   Dear Skyler, At your two graduation speeches, your classmates were told you were brilliant and should now turn that brilliance into action. The various speakers were good, but if I had addressed your class, I would have offered a [...]

20Sep 2016

Here’s The Best Parent – Child Gift

September 20th, 2016|0 Comments

What’s the best parent-child gift? Actually, I think there are two pillars that make the best gift to any child: love and time. In today’s world, love is a lot easier to give than time. Too many parents are caught up in the onslaught of work and bills. Too many parents come home from the office, too tired to pay sufficient attention to their children. Consequently, we are depriving ourselves and our children of much of our happiness.   In my recent blog on the Time Magazine article on “Ordinary Parents: Extraordinary Children”, the article highlighted the importance of maintaining a conflict free home. The world is chaotic enough; let the household (and especially the relationships within the household) be a safe haven from the surrounding chaos. But in that safe haven, you need time together. That’s 1:1 time with each person. That’s not the occasional “hello, how are you doing?” exchange.   I have highlighted the statistics in prior blogs, but let me repeat. The average couple spends 4-20 minutes 1:1 with each other on most work days. The average parent spends 4-20 minutes 1:1 with each of their children on most work days. Those are not statistics that [...]

6Sep 2016

Time Magazine: Raising Extraordinary Kids

September 6th, 2016|0 Comments

Usually, I like to highlight my own ideas in these blogs. However, for this post, I wanted to encourage readers to review Time Magazine’s September 5, 2016 lead article on “Ordinary Families - Extraordinary Kids,” Since some of you might not have access to this Time magazine issue, I am going to summarize the article’s key findings. Because I think they are crucial for any parent.   In this Time magazine article, the author examined ordinary families that produced extraordinary kids. Success of those kids was defined by their leadership, service, or achievement; it was not defined by fame or money. The author highlighted how these families were different in so many ways (ethnicity, wealth, areas of interests, etc.), but the author tried to uncover what was common (and necessary) for producing such successful kids. The article discovered 6 key features for raising extraordinary children.   First, each family seemed able to instill a sense of drive in those kids, coupled to a parental expectation for future success. There did not appear to be any additional pressure for success. It was just a perspective that each child was special, that each child had some gift, and that each child would [...]

31Aug 2016

Even Better Advice for Your College Student

August 31st, 2016|0 Comments

In the prior blog I highlighted the importance of focusing on your friendships in college as opposed to focusing just on your grades. However, I wanted to expand the umbrella of that recommendation. Parents should encourage their kids, in the college years, to focus on things that truly matter. Too often in life the things that matter are at the mercy of the things that do not matter. Since college habits often become life habits, it is important to establish the right priorities and the right habits during those early adult years. To illustrate that point, here is a letter to my daughter, Skyler, in her freshman year of college.   Dear Skyler, We received the following bit (below) from a friend and we thought you might enjoy it.          A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. The conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life. Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups ­porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain-looking, some expensive, and some exquisite - telling them to help themselves. After all the [...]