Do you want your child to become one of your best lifelong friends? Where you remain close for your entire life? Most parents would answer yes to that question. But for many parents, the outcome never happens. What did those parents do wrong? What can other parents do right? If you want your child to become a lifelong friend, you have to be more than loving and supporting. You have to give them the freedom to find their own gifts, develop their own passions, and chart their own purpose. They cannot accomplish those crucial tasks with an intrusive, hovering parent. Strange. The more you let go, the more likely they at to come back.
There’s another component for reaching this relationship goal. During their college years, it is a great time to start sharing more of yourself. Why not share more of your history, your mistakes, and your lessons? Why not share more of your own dreams and fears? As a child, the son or daughter just wants your love and support. As an adult, they want to know the real you — your values, your beliefs, and your priorities. As for me, I just published my own attempt at transitioning from a parent-child relationship to an adult-adult friendship through my book, “A Father’s Letters.” But there are many pathways for reaching this goal. Listen to this presentation and see what path suits you.